This is the question my husband’s brother asked me the other day. Why did you break up was my reply when really what I would have liked to ask was how could you be such a donut to dump her?  It’s as if it was taken straight from the Magic Of Making Up book.

He looked a bit sheepish and told me that he had met this girl at work and she smiled at him. Seemingly she’s young, really pretty and looks rather like she belongs in Baywatch. So he, being a he-man type, decided he had to dump his lovely girlfriend to date this beach honey. Of course, he shortly discovered that she had been smiling at his mate and looked on him like he was something on her shoe.  

Well he merited that but I believe he had ditched his girlfriend for a less apparent reason. He likes her and was afraid of making a commitment to her. He had started thinking about settling down and having kids and no-one had made him feel like this before. But he was worried that being a career girl, this was not the future she had planned.  

Unfortunately he’s not superb at expressing his feelings so decided that it was better to finish the relationship instead of try to discover if his partner shared his vision of the future. Doh!  

Truthfully, how can somebody so clever on a pro level be so emotionally backward. At any rate his ex partner is a nice woman who, God love her, adores him so I knew that getting back with his ex squeeze was possible. It was also a great idea as despite his apparent faults, they make a great couple and he does love her.  

So after reading the Magic Of Making Up, I advised him to write her a letter. He decided an email would do but I asserted it had to be a letter. A hand written letter is such a traditional way of courting someone that it nearly always guarantees a positive reply. So off he went to buy some paper and a pen and as I presumed complete the task to hand.  

And then he was back. “But what do I write?” He inquired. Seriously he’d have let me write the entire thing for him. So i told him to inform her how he felt. An MBA from Harvard and he’s taking a look at me like I advised him to drag out his finger nails. I claimed tell her you like her and you are awfully sorry for the way you behaved and that you want to take her out this Fri. to her favorite eaterie.  

Listen to me that this approach from the Magic Of Making Up works miles better than a text, a bunch of roses and a takeout. Thankfully his partner knows him well and saw the funny side, and my bro in law is no longer asking “how to get back together with my ex-girlfriend”.  

His new question is what to point out to his future pop in law when he pops the question but I will leave my husband to address that one!

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